Chronicles of Less Urban Living, Fresh from In the Night Farm

To Have and to Hold

The more you have, the more you have to lose.

We all know the phrase.  We all know the feeling.

For some, it is a roadblock at the starting block.  I’m the other type.  The type that sets goals and confronts challenges head-on.  The type that assumes success is within reach, and makes it so.

…and then realizes that all I’ve gained can also be lost.

It’s the curse of the wealthy, to fear a stock market crash.  The curse of the beautiful, to fear the ravages of age.  The curse of the athlete, to fear debilitating injury.  The curse of the beloved, to fear rejection.  The curse of the lover, to fear loss.

Fear is a crippling thing.  Too often, it fulfills its own prophecy.  Some fear failure, and so never begin.  Others achieve, then become so focused on guarding their gains that they forget to progress and — worse! — lose track of the who they are that got them where they are.

Don’t let it happen.  Consider what is going nowhere, or going south, in your life.  Consider why.  If the answer is fear, cast it off.

Success, like roses, blooms by season.  What is the point of cultivating rose bushes if you spend all summer dreading the fall?  Walk among the blossoms.  Forget tomorrow, and today will be enough.

The more you have, the more you have.

Period.

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8 responses

  1. A great reminder for the new year. Thank you!

    :::kbs

    December 31, 2010 at 10:54 am

  2. Crysta

    I’ve been loving this song more and more every time I hear it. Seems very fitting for here:

    If Today Was Your Last Day – by Nickleback

    My best friend gave me the best advice
    He said each day’s a gift and not a given right
    Leave no stone unturned, leave your fears behind
    And try to take the path less traveled by
    That first step you take is the longest stride

    If today was your last day
    And tomorrow was too late
    Could you say goodbye to yesterday?
    Would you live each moment like your last?
    Leave old pictures in the past
    Donate every dime you have?
    If today was your last day

    Against the grain should be a way of life
    What’s worth the prize is always worth the fight
    Every second counts ’cause there’s no second try
    So live like you’ll never live it twice
    Don’t take the free ride in your own life

    If today was your last day
    And tomorrow was too late
    Could you say goodbye to yesterday?
    Would you live each moment like your last?
    Leave old pictures in the past
    Donate every dime you have?
    Would you call old friends you never see?
    Reminisce of memories
    Would you forgive your enemies?
    Would you find that one you’re dreamin’ of?
    Swear up and down to God above
    That you finally fall in love
    If today was your last day

    If today was your last day
    Would you make your mark by mending a broken heart?
    You know it’s never too late to shoot for the stars
    Regardless of who you are
    So do whatever it takes
    ‘Cause you can’t rewind a moment in this life
    Let nothin’ stand in your way
    Cause the hands of time are never on your side

    If today was your last day
    And tomorrow was too late
    Could you say goodbye to yesterday?

    Would you live each moment like your last?
    Leave old pictures in the past
    Donate every dime you have?
    Would you call old friends you never see?
    Reminisce of memories
    Would you forgive your enemies?
    Would you find that one you’re dreamin’ of?
    Swear up and down to God above
    That you finally fall in love
    If today was your last day

    January 1, 2011 at 4:01 pm

  3. Nicole

    I admit, this comment doesn’t really belong on this post, but I’d love to see your take on this idea.

    So after many months of thinking you might be crazy by following this completely non standard american diet, then reading about your results in health, and finding your posts about cancer prevention quite compelling – I’m planning out a February (the short month) of more primal meals, probably not totally primal, but definitely leaning that way. Planning out menus that are filled with meat and vegetables and other really good things so we don’t feel like we’re going without on the other stuff (white sugar, flour, etc) so much as we’re filling up on the good, nutritious stuff.

    Since I’ve seen how great you are at digging in deep and wading through all the conflicting information out there, I wondered what you think of soaking grains. I know there’s some bad things in most grains (phytates, etc) but I’ve read convincing evidence that grains can be okay if they are soaked in an acid medium (lemon juice, cultured buttermilk, …) that this breaks down the harmful enzymes and what have you in them, making them healthy. What do you think of this?

    January 12, 2011 at 7:52 am

    • Your comment made my morning, Nicole — so glad you’re going to give this a try! Thanks for the post idea, too — I’ll do some more homework (I’ve read on the subject, but not deeply) and see what I come up with. 🙂 I’d love to hear how your February project goes. 🙂

      January 12, 2011 at 9:34 am

  4. Rocketthorse

    I love reading your blog. When I’m avoiding studying, I love to check it (especially the endurance blog) for updates. This post reminded me of a book I read recently which I absolutely loved. It’s called “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle. Truly and amazing book. If you feel so inclined, it’s worth checking out. Keep up the good work (both the horses and the writing).

    April 29, 2011 at 4:12 am

    • Thanks for the recommendation — and for reading!

      April 29, 2011 at 7:35 am

  5. Ditto what Rocketthorse said. This is my go-to blog.

    LOVE this post. Thanks for reminding me it was here.

    April 29, 2011 at 9:55 am

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